Yesterday marked two very important and special days for me. It was my Grandparents anniversary and a week earlier, it was mine and Lester's 5th wedding anniversary. I think about all the things that have happened in those years-the events both big and small, and the millions of ways the universe had to collide properly to make them possible, and to keep us together. I think of all the millions of things that could have changed how things worked out and about the forces working against us that we could've fallen head first into, but didn't. People often say marriage is hard-and if you ask me I would agree with them to a point [Lester not so much apparently-but that is another story haha.] But I think part of it is because it is not a passive thing-I know there are times with extenuating circumstances, but I think if you want a relationship and especially a marriage to work out, so far it takes truly active work on both parts, to accept the other persons faults, love them regardless, but to also help them to overcome them and become a better person. It also takes humility as they try to do the same for you. 


I thought I had already included this poem somewhere on here-and honestly as much as I love the written word, poetry in general is not my favorite thing [too many feelings haha]. But my all time favorite poem and one of my favorite descriptions of love is Shakespeare's sonnet 116.

Let me not to the marriage of true minds 
Admit impediments. Love is not love 
Which alters when it alteration finds, 
Or bends with the remover to remove. 
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark 
That looks on tempests and is never shaken; 
It is the star to every wand'ring bark, 
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken. 
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks 
Within his bending sickle's compass come; 
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, 
But bears it out even to the edge of doom. 
If this be error and upon me prov'd, 
I never writ, nor no man ever lov'd.

So many people find each other and think they've finally found the right match, but then when storms or struggles come, the love fades or they decide they need to move on.

True love does like the poem says-it is an ever fixed mark that looks on tempests and is never shaken. Time can't alter it, trials can't shake it and neither can other people or distractions. It is consistent, it is kind, it is patient, it is strong, it is safe, it is secure, and it is confident.

To be in love with someone is to know and accept someone with their imperfections and weaknesses, but choosing to see and focus and develop all the best qualities in them, while overcoming the bad ones. It is not passive or easy, it is hard and active and it takes work, on both ends. It means to be committed, and it means some turning of the other cheek, some fights and some tears. But it also means always having someone always there, being your truly happiest, and getting someone's best, and becoming your best self. It means more then your a part of something bigger then yourself. It means true clarity and joy.

My Grandparents were some of those rare couples now a days who showed us how to love. They are not perfect, and they never pretended to be. I've seen them roll their eyes at each other or fight here or there in my life. But I've also seen the tender way they speak about each other-the way my Grandpa always wanted to personally shop for gifts for my Grandma instead of delegating, even in his old age, the way he always referred to her as 'his sweetheart', the way she'd blush and roll her eyes and say 'Oh Sam!' all exasperated when he complimented her but have a lingering smile, they way they'd take care of each other and stick together without hesitation through difficulties, be they in this life or the next. They took the tempests and were never shaken-they were one of many examples I've been blessed to have of how to love over an eternity, and I love seeing many of these same goals and traits in mine and Lester's relationship. People say 'I can't wait to spend eternity with you!' but I feel like its so much more then that-eternity isn't something I look forward to because it I'm living it with him-it means your past, your present and your future. It is hard for me to remember a time when Lester wasn't a part of my life, because the longer we're married the more those times don't exist without him. Does that make any sense? Maybe he wasn't there when my cousins and I sang Spice Girls, or when my sisters and I would all cram into the bathroom to brush our teeth and duke it out over who was hogging the sink or a million other things. But we are so much a part of each other now that in a way he was there for that-because he's a part of me, of who I am and all that comes with that. I'm probably not expressing this right, but at least I know what I mean haha!

Anyways-I guess I just wanted to record some of my thoughts and feelings on this. Someday I know my kids will bring home potential candidates for their eternity, and it will be hard and wonderful and weird for me. But I hope they know what to look for and what to seek out from reading this, sure, but also from just seeing it every day from me and Lester [the way I have with my parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts etc.] I hope it will help them to be realistic about things, but to not settle for less then they deserve. These past 11 years of dating, and 5 years of marriage have taken us places I never could have foreseen, with or without the rose colored glasses that come from initially loving someone. But theres not a single one that I would ask to be removed-it has, is and will be a wonderful eternity with my Lester and my babies, and I am grateful beyond measure for that.

So I guess happy anniversary to my Grandparents, and happy anniversary to us! Enjoying and looking forward to an endless number more!

[My Uncle Roger & Aunt Lynette included this picture in my Grandpa's book/memoirs and I love it, and thought I'd share it.]





[We had dinner at The Cheesecake Factory on top of Macy's in Union Square, which we ate at one night on our honeymoon 5 years ago...fun!]

Ok guys, there is something truly beautiful about tall, encompassing trees, filthy dirty little baby feet, the sound of freedom's echo through a campsite, the feeling of cold, clear water on your skin after a day in the hot sun, and the comfort of a hot chocolate made on the fire while you watch the stars from your tent with your loved ones.

This week our family spent some time doing all of these things! On Monday morning, we headed out to South Lake Tahoe. After one stop and a 4 hour drive, we made it to our beautiful campsite amidst the beautiful trees and meadows. After setting up and letting the girls run out some of that wild car energy, we made the 5 minute trek to Pope Beach for some fun in the sun. It was the perfect weather, not to hot or cold, and the water was calm and shallow for miles-it was such a change up from the gorgeous, but treacherous beaches we're used to here, where you have to watch the kids like a hawk to makes sure the waves don't take them out. Here, the girls could be free and play wherever they wanted. After several hours of relaxing and playing here, we headed back to campsite to build our fire and cook our foil dinners. The girls we're able to explore and play freely, and it was such a nice chance to disconnect.





We woke up bright and early the next day with the sunshine glaring at us through the tent and our trees, made a big campfire breakfast and headed back out. Our first stop of the day was the beautiful Sand Dune Beach. Technically, this crosses the California Nevada line, but for the 45 minute drive it was worth to say the least. This beach boasted the same calm, gorgeous, kid friendly water the other did, but had even more stunning views of the mountains and trees surrounding the crystal clear blue lake. We spend half of our day here, playing in the water, building sand castles, talking and just hanging out. It doesn't sound like much, but I will always remember it as one of the best, most simply perfect days that we've had as a family. Eventually, we pulled ourselves away from the beach for a late lunch over in Heavenly where we stopped for lunch before taking the Gondola up for the views. If you are not afraid of heights, I would recommend it. No matter where you turn, there is something awe inspiring, and you almost can't take all the beauty in. The girls called it flying, and that is indeed what it felt like. At the top of the mountain, we stopped to play at the little park before heading back down for ice cream and the drive back. After more campfire, dinner and outdoor play we headed back to bed to read and sing the girls to sleep before hanging out just the two of us till we crashed.


















Our last morning we woke up and let the girls run wild while Lester cooked breakfast and we cleaned up the campsite. Bittersweet, even for such a short vacation, but still good to think of sleeping in our beds haha. The campsite we stayed at was called Fallen Leaf campground and had its own private lake accessible for campers. So far, we hadn't even had time to check this one out, so we did so before leaving. It amazes me how different, but equally gorgeous all of these different spots here are. Lester and I are determined to some day get rich enough to get a time share up here-all the houses had private docks for their canoes and swimming, and it looked like a blast. Before heading home, we also stopped at the gorgeous Emerald Bay where you can see where the glacier broke through to create it, and the Vikingsholm Castle Trailhead.








All in all, it was the perfect getaway. We will definitely be returning sometime in the near future, with or without kids. Such an incredible world we live in.
Now that the mini apocalypse is over in this here house, we have gotten back to filling our weeks with outside time, preschool and learning, and a healthy dose of chores. Still, we've definitely packed in some fun. Here are the high lights!


Unlike typical Pacifica summers, we have had quite a few clear, warm days here. While I personally love me some fog, it has been a nice change up and we have had some amazing views and walks as a result. Our latest ones were over the old Devil's slide road and Mori Point where my Mom found several wild rabbits heading home every night around sunset. We've also found some new [to us anyways] views over by Battery Crosby Road [by way of Land's End] and a few other ones. I think the kids favorite was probably the Discovery Museum in Sausalito though. SO much fun, so creative and interactive with the gorgeous bridge backdrop and great weather. Seriously, one of my favorite days-why can't Lester be off all the time, am I right?!?




























We have also been hitting up our usual hot spots of the zoo, the Academy and the parks. Doesn't matter how many times we do these, we always have fun and learn something new. Luckily, our friends and the girls seem to enjoy it as much as we do. We've also visited with Lolo & Lola here and there of course. All of this has been great!















We also had a chance to catch up with some of my Mom's side of the family when we met up in Santa Cruz for a beach day. The girls loved hanging with their cousins almost as much as I did and it was so fun having Lester around to play catch with and get to know everyone better. Our little family went to the Boardwalk afterwards by ourselves and we were impressed with how many fun rides they had for the girls. We also loved the food and reminiscing about all the good memories and people we used to hang out with there.
















Like I said earlier, apart from this its been regular life as we know it, with preschool and learning and chores. It is such a joy watching and helping our girls develop each new skill, and we are always amazed at how much they seem to figure out themselves. They are amazing girls, and we are so lucky to be a party of their journey. Isla is now a full fledged walking machine [she goes Frankenstein style with both arms out and we love it] and has quite the sense of humor, trying to make jokes and silly faces, and copying her sister and singing and dancing. Addy knows everything from her alphabet, colors, shapes, numbers and of course, all of this with a healthy dose of hilarity and attitude. She likes to tell us jokes and secrets, and is working on processing and developing her emotions a bit, as expected, but its kind of nice having her being a little more attached then usual. She also finally has enough hair to do ponytails and braids. We love our ladies!





We still have a ton of fun stuff coming up, and we are coming up on our 5 year wedding anniversary next week. Such an incredibly blessed, wonderful life we are living right now. So that's our update for these days-until next time!
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